Be braver than you think you can be.
If you’re scared, stop being scared and be brave instead. It’s not easy and I’m not trying to make it seem like it is. Being brave is the most difficult thing you could ever do. When things are scary it’s so much easier to run back to a safe place; to retreat within yourself and allow yourself to never fully blossom. It’s so easy to throw your hands up and listen to the doubts floating around within your mind. I know it is.
I’ve been there and I’m there right now. I’m a fix-it kind of person, so when things get hard, my main goal is to keep the peace. (Unless you catch me on one of my sassy days… then that’s a completely different story.) I don’t like conflict and I don’t like hurting others, but a wise person once told me that even if what you’re doing hurts, if the outcome is a generative one, it was worth it. You might have to break down those muscles of yours and realize that you’re going to be sore for a while, but that soreness will strengthen you in the end.
Life is full of conflict and hurt. It’s full of trials that make you feel like maybe you’ll never not be broken. These trials that you face are scary as fuck. They’re hard and you probably don’t want to deal with them. I don’t blame you for that! And quite frankly, I don’t blame myself for that either; but we have to realize that we’re human. We make mistakes and so long as we learn from them and move forward, it’s okay.
I have made so many mistakes in my life. I swear they’ve just been happening one after another after another. When I look back on them, they make me feel like utter crap. They make my heart hurt because I even when I was making them, I should have known they were mistakes. Maybe I ignored it, maybe I was blind… who knows, but the past is behind me and all I can look to is the future. So I’m going to and I hope you do the same.
Be brave when you’re faced with trials. Be brave when things get hard. Be brave and put yourself out there because you never know what might happen. If you make a mistake, take note and move forward. Learn from it and forgive yourself for making it. You don’t need to keep glancing over your shoulder at the past behind you; you’ve got a bright and sunny future, my friend. Act like it.